Three people dating each other
The thing is, you can make any excuse you like when you really fancy, or even love someone.
“They’re still getting over their ex,” “they just need more time,” or (ugh) “they’re scared of commitment,” but the fact is when someone meets the right person, they can’t propose marriage, or a joint rental agreement quick enough.
Maybe I’m being old fashioned and just plain unrealistic to think that I should wait for someone who’s actually interested enough to want to chase me, who knows for certain from the out that they want a relationship with me – and who doesn’t need talking into the bloody thing.
Or maybe I’m just particularly unlucky when it comes to men.
Maybe that’s a bit dogmatic but everyone’s got to draw a line somewhere.
And if there’s one thing I learnt from my 20s, it’s that I’m not going to waste any of my time on men who won’t even waste a noun on me.
“I’ve never willingly called any of the women I’ve been out with my girlfriends – even the ones I’ve lived with.
But if you’re not seeing anyone else, and you’re seeing a lot of each other what on earth is it if it’s not a relationship?
And if things go well, dating couples move in with each other, on average, after 30 weeks or 60 dates.
So, from now on I’m sticking to my guns – if you won’t call it after eight weeks, then I’m out of there.
It was later that we discovered there was a term for what we were.
If we need a term, we consider ourselves “poly-fidelitous,” which is what poly’s call those who love more than one person in a long-term, faithful kind of way.