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There have been many books written by therapists and psychologists about social anxiety, but you usually feel like the author doesn’t truly understand the difficulty of our unique problem.
And the tips they give feel parroted from a therapy handbook written in the 70s.
Specifically, feeling ashamed about who you are as a person.
This is what I call toxic shame, and you should check out my video about this topic here: Do You Feel Constantly Ashamed Of Yourself?
Obviously you shouldn’t just trust my own opinion here. But check out the reviews and feedback I’ve received from both professionals and former social anxiety sufferers. This is the only book out there that I can honestly recommend as having the full and CORRECT answer to overcoming social anxiety, besides my own. Aziz starts the book by showing that a better understanding of your fears and social anxiety is the first step to change.
Then (similar to my system) he shows you how shyness or social anxiety is changeable, it’s not a permanent part of who you are.
This includes scientific studies, self help books, communication and dating “gurus,” etc.
The cure for shame prescribed in the book is vulnerability, having the courage to slowly open up to people and share more of yourself.He reveals that most people with social anxiety are secretly carrying a core negative belief that “I’m not enough.” Finally he gives specific steps for how to overcome fear of rejection and begin breaking out of a life of fear. Richards cognitive behavioural audio program was the “gold standard.” This means it was really the only practical and effective option for social anxiety sufferers, besides actual therapy or medication.The techniques and handouts from the audio program are now also available as a book. Techniques like slowing down the voice in your head are all core teachings here.Many people came to him wanting to fix a “flaw” in their appearance.And after the surgery was done and their “flaw” was fixed, many of these people’s lives did not actually improve.