Rules on dating your friend ex

And don’t ever use jealousy or insecurity over their past relationship to excuse irrational or controlling behavior on your part. It may be tempting ask your friend to analyze what happened between the two of them so that you can avoid making the same mistakes, but resist that urge.Of course, if your sweetie gives you a legitimate reason to believe he’s untrustworthy, get out of there stat, but if there’s really nothing wrong, don’t create problems where none exist. Likewise, don’t grill your boyfriend on what went wrong or insist that he account for his behavior throughout the entire time they dated.This has nothing to do with some kind of Eternal Dibs situation, and everything to do with the fact that, by choosing to build a relationship with someone who treated her horribly, you’re telling your friend you don’t think what he did to her was all that bad. There are lots of people out there who are just as good in bed and haven’t traumatized anyone you care about.Set the precedent that people who are awful to your friends are people who don’t get to see you naked, and your life will be the better because of it.

If you’re gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend’s ex at some point.

Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend’s ex.

They wholeheartedly believe that it’s wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they’d never talk to that person again.

In fact, when we met, my now-partner was on a date with my best friend.

They dated casually for a few weeks before they split up and we got together, and three years later the same friend gave one of the readings at our wedding. It’s common to assume that anything shared with you is by default shared with your partner as well; however, your friend might be much less comfortable speaking to you in confidence if she thought the details of her personal life were going to be relayed to someone who used to share her toothbrush.

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