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You don’t even actually know if they’d ever bone him again, if they’ll still be single (or single again) at some future point after which you two might have broken up, or what they think of you (other than, I assume, that you aren’t very friendly, unless you’re an Oscar-award winning actress).
But in your head, they are waiting in the wings and rubbing their hands together like evil cartoon villains, just waiting to get back into your boyfriend’s drawers. You need to get your head screwed on straight, or get out of this relationship for his sake and your own.
He leans on them emotionally and (when he’s single) physically… And just because he isn’t actually having sex with them currently, I still feel like they might as well be because the intention/desire is still there, like they’re just taking a break for a while and I’m part of the intermission.
I feel like a joke to these girls because I want to think our relationship is special when they’ve had him this way for years.
Opinionated, in which readers have questions about the pesky day-to-day choices we all face, and I give advice about how to make ones that (hopefully) best reflect our shared commitment to feminist values—as well as advice on what to do when they don’t.
I feel that sex is only valuable to me when I’m sharing it with someone I love and trust completely and I can’t enjoy it when I don’t feel that my heart is safe.
My boyfriend and I have worn this argument to the bare bones, but we still don’t seem to understand each other. And in some relationships, that’s fine as long as the two of you have trust in one another and respect for one another’s different points of view.
What you want is for him to cut off contact with his friends, which is totally unfair, in the hopes that you feel more secure – but even if that works temporarily, it’s no permanent solution to the bigger problem that his past in general makes you feel insecure about his commitment to your current relationship. You know what he hasn’t done with his fuck buddies? Attempted to make them feel secure by opening up about his past and how it relates to his present relationship and what he wants in his future.
Considered the possibility, even though he dismissed it, of ending close friendships that provide him with a level of emotional support because they wanted him all to themselves emotionally and physically.
And you need to consider that his friends are his friends for reasons that they might be (or might have been) yours, too, if you let your defenses down and thought about them as individuals rather than women-your-boyfriend-used-to-bang.
And then you need to look deep within yourself and separate out that piece of all of this which is the socialized understanding that women are in competition with one another for the supposedly scarce resource of men.