Dating after divorce for women over 50
Burning bridges if you don't feel "sparks": Chemistry is elusive as you date. Recently I went on a date and had a great evening, but there were no sparks. I decided to accept a second date because we had fun together. My advice to my "dating self" was to make my date into my friend.
The suggestion may offend some men, but take the opportunity to be good company.
You just nibbled through an entire bar of dark chocolate. You are "out there" again, and the dating world has changed a lot since the eighties. Put down the chocolate; it really isn't so bad out there.
The last time you had a first date, you wore jackets with shoulder pads and permed your hair.
My advice is to get out there, but avoid these common mistakes I see women make after divorce.
Dating too soon after the divorce: I learned this lesson early. I was a dating disaster since I wasn't truly ready.
I tell clients, if you want to meet an interesting man, be an interesting woman.Remember, men are attracted to women who are independent and fun -- women who have interesting lives of their own.Being someone other than your "genuine self" on a first date: Talking about work may feel safe, but it's not a good first date conversation.A coach will tell you the truth about your readiness to date. My advice is, before you join the dating boomers, seek out professional help from a trained counselor or coach like myself.In this case, you need a coach more than you need to eat another chocolate bar with a girlfriend!