Best and worst cities for interracial dating
When I started dating my husband back in 1999, there was absolutely no place, discussion or support for Black women who were dating and/or married interracially.
Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!
I mean actual, real-life interracial relationships. Despite its higher representation on TV and in pop culture, this is still a taboo subject, and one that is often met with a range of emotions that are not always positive.
So I decided to talk to interracial relationship expert, Christelyn Karazin, Brand Ambassador for Interracial Dating Central.com, who gave her thoughts on the subject and why she is an interracial dating advocate particularly for Black women.
I also advocate because Black women are at a unique dating disadvantage in America.
Marriageable Black women outnumber marriageable Black men by the millions.
I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.
Even in my own experience I feel like men either assume that I don’t date outside my race or they have hangups about how they’d introduce me to their friends/family (which presents another issue).
I’ll admit there’s still some hesitancy to connect offline by both genders—I know this because they write me constantly about how to overcome it.
But meeting online allows for everyone to get to know one another in a low-pressure way, and build if there is a desire to do so on both ends.
Unlike other dating experts, hers is a success story. Here’s what she had to say: Candice: Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you’ve become an advocate for interracial couples?
Christelyn: As with most advocacy, my motivation comes from having my own experiences.