Being a single dad and dating
No, I’m not talking about being physically beautiful, or being “arm candy” (although that is great too.) We want to be able to take you to company functions and family reunions, and as we are leaving, we want our bosses, our coworkers, or that old slightly-senile uncle who always smells suspiciously like whiskey to pull us aside and tell us we better hang onto you, because you’re a keeper.You can talk to any single dad, and the odds are at one time or another, they have trusted too much and had that trust broken—either by their child’s mother, or by someone they dated after her.We already have to do that around our ex, in order to attempt to co-parent.You telling us that you trust us, means so much more to a dad who is constantly being ridiculed by our child’s other parent for our past infractions. There are nights that even a quickie is out of the question, because by the time homework is done and the dishwasher is loaded, there is no way in hell we are doing anything but falling into our bed and passing out.
We want you to trust us so we aren’t always walking on eggshells.
Most of that dating was fairly casual, but I have been in a couple relationships—the most recent and most serious of those relationships having lasted just under two years. Or at least I realize now looking back on it just how easy it was.
You can live your life, go out on dates, and pretty much do whatever you want within the confines of the law for 26 days out of the month.
We just need you to reassure us that everything is going to work out.
These days, mothers are almost always viewed by the courts and the general public as the most capable and nurturing parent.